We are all now pretty skilled at communicating at this point
in our lives, so why not become an expert at communicating our emotions
properly as well? I find that many people have a difficult time communicating
their emotions effectively because they cannot identify the root of their
emotion. In chapter 7, the concept I found most useful was how to Identify Your Emotions. At times this
can require lots of patience in order to sort the puzzle pieces out, but people
need to realize it’s the most important part; instead what many people do is
lean towards an easy solution, which can also be the worst. For example, if I
am hurt by a friend who does not make time for me because of her new boyfriend,
I should communicate that to her right when I feel it. Whereas in many cases,
friends will tend to put on a front that it doesn’t bother them and they are
just “mad” because they spend too much time with their other half. Realizing the
root of the emotion, the feeling your experiencing and why, is crucial in
communicating efficiently. When in doubt
of your own emotions, take a step back before you speak or show action and
think within yourself what you are feeling; give attention to your inner self.
Just as the book states, “…we can learn to ignore our feelings, [but we can
also] teach ourselves to notice and heed them” (Woods).
Great Post! I like how you ended it with a quote. I definitely agree with you. I come from a high school where a lot of people are superficial and fake. They act like it is okay but really, deep inside, they're mad like no other. I had a relationship where my significant other would do that but thankfully, she changed and our relationship went a lot smoother. We humans can't read minds so we have to communicate our emotions! It's definitely not something easy to learn because many of us deal with certain experiences when we're young and some of us will be more open than others. A lot of the time, people are afraid of what others would think about their emotions. I can see how some people would use emotions as a way of "reading" someone for who they actually are.
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